Tits Out Truth Bombs Tuesday: Can A Relationship Be Repaired When Trust is Broken?

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Lies, Manipulation, and Love Built to Die

Or

There’s Good Reason Why So Many Of Us Have Built a Wall Around Ourselves

Recently I had my heart ripped out of my chest again. My best friend has told me on countless occasions that I trust people too easily. I know she is right, but I also have never been able to overcome this trait I have. Regardless of whether I’m making a new friend or developing a new romantic relationship, I always give people the benefit of the doubt. I trust them until they prove to otherwise be untrustworthy. This is not uncommon behavior, most of us do this. Why wouldn’t we do this? There has to be some faith in both the self and the other that the bonds that are being built are being built on solid honest ground.

And yet, it’s so interesting how quickly a good relationship can turn bad when that trust we hand over so easily shatters.

The question is, can it be repaired?

Of course, it can, we even can see examples in mainstream media every day, see Beyonce and Jay-Z, Hillary and Bill, etc.

The deeper question comes down to whether or not both parties involved really want to repair it.

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When someone does something hurtful to someone else the person being hurt has to understand that this is not a reflection of who they are, but a question of who the other person doing the hurting is.

How good was the relationship prior to this pain? Are both of you willing to do the work to overcome it?

Of course, I can’t help but feel duped, humiliated, made to look stupid. The thought of going through those feelings again is enough to make me run far far away and never look back. It’s not that I can’t forgive him for his terrible behavior–I can. I’m questioning whether I can trust myself to give him another chance and risk going through all of those emotions again. I’m not a big fan of those emotions, who is? I think of what my friends would do, would say to me. I think of what I’d say to my friends if something similar happened to them and I know I’d tell them to tell the guy to “fuck off,” (which I actually did do, quite loudly at 5 am in the morning but that’s a digression).

I think of the future. I think, what if I forgive this guy and he does it again? Not only would I be mad at myself but I’d be embarrassed, ashamed for being so easily manipulated.

I don’t understand liars. I’ve always been way too honest, to a fault even. My lack of a filter has gotten me in trouble many many times, yet I prefer it to living any other way. Sometimes I forget how other people don’t do this. How other people so often lie to get what they want.

That’s the other thing that confuses me. Why lie to get what you want? And what benefit does it serve to lie to the person you like romantically? If you’re so comfortable with that that you’re no longer interested in being with them, why not just break it off? If you’re so bored that you want to be with someone else after a month why not just say “girl, bye?” If you want to do whatever you want and get away with it, why be in a relationship at all?

The thing is you can’t do whatever you want when you’re in relationships with other people. Not if you care about them anyway. Sometimes you have to suck it up and do the thing you don’t really want to do, whether it’s going to their company’s BBQ even though you hate all their coworkers, making breakfast even though you’re both dying of a hangover, or you know, not hitting on their roommate even if the roommate is so damn cool and fine. It’s called basic human decency. Relationships require that as a bare minimum.

So yeah, here I am, in kind of a conundrum.

There were so many good things happening and I miss that, I miss him, I miss us. Yet, I can’t be with a liar. I can’t be with someone who does whatever he wants with no regard for the other person. If he can prove that that is not who he is at his core (or his surface even). If he could actually do the work, show real remorse and take positive action to repair all this then maybe.

Yet, then again, maybe I’m too easy and need to learn how to be a bit “more hard”.

Hard Wood Wednesday: Sliding Into My DMs

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Answering Your Most Pressing Direct Messages

or

I’m Never Gonna Reply Back Directly So Here Ya Go, Some FAQs

Every day I have many people send me direct messages on Instagram. I do not follow these people so they go into this separate folder. This folder is full of entertainment, annoyances, quite graphic sexual/erotic descriptions usually of things dudes would like to do to me.

Don’t get me wrong. I love interacting with people on the internet. I wouldn’t be on social media if I hated to be social and use media to voice my thoughts. I’ve had hundreds of amazing conversations with interesting people, but I thought I’d cover some of the generic ones sent my way.

I’m doing this in case you are a person who is considering sending me a message. It’s sort of like some FAQs here for you so you don’t have to waste your time or mine. Cool. Here we go.

On Nudes, Videos, Snaps, etc.

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Do I make custom videos?

No.

I made exclusive videos for my patrons on Patreon. I typically try to upload 1-3 new videos a week including a Freaky Fan Friday video every Friday that Patrons who join for just $1 a month can watch. So you can gain exclusive access for very little investment on your end and actually quite a bit more on mine.

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Can you have a visible look? 

Yes. You can have a visible look at my tits if you become a Patron on Patreon. You cannot have a visible look at my tits on Instagram or Youtube because they will delete it and give me a strike.

Why do they do this? Because this is a puritanical culture that likes to hate women’s bodies at the same time it also likes to objectify and obsess about women’s bodies. I don’t know. Also, something to do with children learning about naked bodies and sexuality before they’re capable of understanding because children have never been naked before etc. etc.

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Do I got patreon?!

YES!!! I do got patreon. You can find me HERE!!!  (No I do not Snap.)

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Can I only see a photo here of your nice body nude?

No. You cannot see a photo here of my nice body nude. It’s an unfortunate sad sob story that your girlfriend had to leave you today, but I am not the type of girl who feels sorry for dudes going through a breakup. If you want to see my nude body you can become a patron just like everyone else.

On Modeling

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“I am a photographer. Would you like to do a modeling photo shoot?”

The last time I was asked to model it was for a long-boarding company. I had never been on a longboard before. I figured it out pretty quickly, then I got cocky. My big head that inflated because I was asked to model knocked me off balance. I fell off on top of a hill right into a giant puddle and my knee pretzeled into me moving into an advanced yoga move that I wasn’t ready for. I ended up in Urgent Care and couldn’t really walk on it for three months. Then I got fat because I was depressed and found solace in drinking an excessive amount of beer.

So, I’m not sure “modeling in a photo shoot” is the right path for me (willing to discuss for the right price and only if I can stay on solid land).

On Dick Pics

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“Hey baby u want a dick pic” 

Do I want a dick pic? What I question! It’s almost as if you think I’ve never in my life seen a dick before and will somehow be amazed and astounded by this random one that I can do absolutely nothing with but look at. Please for the love of the goddesses above DO NOT SEND ME A PIC OF YOUR DICK. For one thing, Instagram blocks those images so I luckily never have to actually see them. For another, just, no. Your carrot does not make me hungry. Your eggplant is more like a breakfast sausage link. Your popsicle does not make me melt.

If you want me to look at your dick then you can order a TINY DICK STORY from me. This is where you pay me to write a poem or flash fiction story about your dick. This is the ONLY WAY I will EVER be willing to look at your dick pic. You can find out more information about the TINY DICK STORY on my Carrot Consulting page.

On Erotic Descriptions of Sexual Things You Want to Do To Me

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Put these stories in comments on my actual Instagram posts so everyone else can read them too because we all deserve a little more erotica in our lives. Plus when you send it directly to me it’s creepy, but when you share it in public other people can learn new ways to describe tits and discover different things to do with their tongues etc.

On My Day

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Did I get your text earlier?

Well, no sir, I did not get your text earlier because you do not have my phone number, nor will you ever.

How’s the day going?

Why thank you for asking. My day is going alright. I haven’t been up that long at the time of this writing. Yesterday I was irritable and discouraged, but today is a new day. Of course, I went for a run and everyone outside of this house was out and about and getting on my nerves but that’s over now. This crazy blood moon lunar eclipse is happening this Friday (7/27) and it’s supposed to really turn things around, whichever way you want it to go. I’m ready. Are you?

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I May Have Just Gone On The Worst Date In My Entire Life

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Was this the worst date of my life?

or

Wow, maybe try like just 1% harder and you’d get laid.

I’ve been on hundreds of dates in my life. Tinder dates. OK Cupid Dates. Dates with people I met in real life (yes, it can happen). Even a blind date once (in high school before the internet was a thing).

Perhaps this was a reflection of me to have chosen this guy; he was insecure and couldn’t hold a conversation to save his life; he did have nice arms and I have a near-fetish thing for arms so I could have been temporarily stuck in my ID when I swiped right.

I asked him what he believed in and he couldn’t answer. I asked him what he wanted and he didn’t know.
I literally said, “I want to have an engaging conversation and then if it’s engaging enough I’ll fuck you.”

I’m in rebound mode so it doesn’t take much right now.

I did not fuck him. Or do anything except leave and go to a bar by myself because I’d rather spend time with me than with someone who can’t talk to other people.

Here are three quick and easy dating tips:

1. Ask questions that you actually want to know the answer to.
2. If you don’t care about the answers don’t go on a date JUST fuck them and leave.
3. Know what you want.

When you know what you want you can actually get the things that you want AND knowing what you want makes you way more confident than people who do not.

Confidence is the sexiest quality to have… that and nice arms and big ole’ brains.

Also, I woke up with this Throwback Thursday song playing on repeat in my head. It pretty much sums up what I was thinking while this date was happening.

“I’ve been waiting for a dose of your personality. If I’m in the mood and if all goes right, baby you will be, you will be, going home with me tonight.”

It just never quite got to the personality part.

In the end, I do wish him the best luck. I hope he can find a way to come out of his shell a little bit more and let people in or find a woman who likes a guy who never speaks. I’m sure they’re out there. Like, maybe a woman who really loves to talk constantly so there’s never a gap and he can just smile and nod and then they can bang and live happily ever after.

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Just Content, No Point?

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Because

What is the point of this website??!?

Here I get fired up about what the point of all of this is.

After my first link posting a rando on Instagram sent me a message. He said I had content, but no point. I thought my points had been rather clear, but to get even clearer here they are.

Point 1.
Tell the truth, the whole truth about who you are and what you want.

Some of my truths.

  • I enjoy sex.
  • I enjoy sex with beautiful people.
  • I want to be open to all possibilities in life.
  • I want to listen to opinions that do not necessarily align with my own and learn and grow because of them.
  • I want to explore the world and all the beautiful things (and people) in it.

Point 2.

  • I believe that people should experience more pleasure. In other words, we should have as much (consensual) sex as we want (if we want A LOT then we should have it, if we’re asexual and want none, then we should have none).
  • With pleasure comes responsibility aka safer sex practices, communication, and as written above, honesty.

Point 3.
We should all eat more carrots (aka give more oral and eat healthy foods because both of those things gives us pleasure and helps us live longer).

Also, I took a few seconds out of my day to put on lip gloss. It’s a real exciting clip.