Tits Out & Truth Bombs Tuesday
Some People Can’t Handle Your Worthiness
I couldn’t sleep last night. I felt sad and disappointed about my current state in love, dating, life.
I know it’s difficult for some of you to believe, but I’ve been rejected quite a bit lately.
(The most recent by a guy who claimed he really liked me, was totally into me; told me to text him then didn’t respond for nine days. Only to tell me when he did finally respond that he had hooked back up with his ex and has now decided to get back together with her. But… he still “wants to be friends.” #coolcarrot)
Dating can be a struggle for everyone, even people who are expert daters. One reason why I’m an expert dater is because of all the rejection, both to and from me.
It’s hard out there. And I’m not talking just about boners.
In the book I’ve been reading (More Than Two), the authors write:
“Even the healthiest person, when persistently rejected, will hurt.”
And it’s okay to hurt. It’s okay to feel sad or angry or disappointed when something doesn’t work out with someone, particularly when so many possibilities had felt so possible. Yet, I know that I am worthy of great, loving, thoughtful, intimate relationships. I know what I am capable of giving back to other people. I know how much love is already in my life, which helps me from spiraling all the way down into a bottomless pit of despair.
I also know that I have to feel the sadness. Because if I don’t feel it, it will bottle up and turn into something really ugly that no one, including myself, wants to see.
Here are some questions that I have been asking myself, perhaps they will also help you if you’ve recently been rejected.
- What do I bring to others’ lives? (In friendships, family, and romance)
- What love is already in my life?
- What have I learned from these recent dating experiences?
- How can I apply these learnings to create better relationships in the future?
- What do I really want and what can I truly give?
I am so grateful to all of you who have been reading/watching/enjoying/following this blog. To tell you the WHOLE truth, starting this blog kept me from killing myself. I understand that that sounds dramatic, but I was in a pretty dark place a couple of months ago; my creativity was stifled, I didn’t know what I wanted, I was drinking and doing too many drugs.
Now at least my creativity isn’t stifled and I know what I want 🙂
Rejection is one of the costs of dating. It can be painful, but perhaps we can all look rejection more as a type of growing pain than something specifically directed at you as a person. Everyone is out there looking for different things and we can’t also be the one to give those things to another.
As they say:
“The people in a relationship are more important than the relationship.”
I’m not expert at any of this, but I have had many and plenty of experiences. I’m going to continue onward, knowing the difference between needing and wanting someone… knowing what I can give and knowing what I’m willing to take. Knowing that sometimes people aren’t meant to be in a relationship with you, but they are still beautiful wonderful people who deserve love and fulfillment.
Rejection is alright.
Because in the end, even when we lose, we win.
Pre-coffee / Pre-process of emotions / early morning wake-up video / honestly have no idea what I even say on this but didn’t want you all to think I’m hiding shit from you. . .
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